I have always thought my partner is a poor listener, (or may be would say most men are) until we went to visit some family friends last weekend. They would enquire how you have been and before you finish, off they are to another topic! Personally, I thought this was rude and I thought may be more than enough have been said about writing skills and very little on listening as a skill.
To be a good listener, think of how you would want to be listened to. Listening makes others feel appreciated, interesting and respected. In the business world, losses can be avoided and time saved too because listening prevent misunderstandings. This is why you should review your listening skill before you attend a job interview.
Sit up straight or lean forward slightly facing the speaker to show your attentiveness through body language. Maintain eye contact as much as possible and minimize distractions for example turning off the television, or put down a book or magazine.
A conversation is supposed to follow logical flow after the speaker makes a point. Focus on what the speaker is saying and try not to think of what you will say next. Respond appropriately to show you understand.
Try to keep an open mind and do not make assumptions about what the speaker is thinking, wait until they finish before deciding whether you agree or disagree. Avoid telling your story; unless your advice is requested, just assume they just wanted to talk it out.
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