The more I listen to most of my married friends, the more worried I get. Each time we sit down and share a cup of coffee, all we pour out from our hearts are problems, how disappointed we are with our spouses. There is one thing we all have encountered in our marriages though, ‘communication breakdown’. Even when we think we have done wrong, we do not take the time to say we are sorry, we do not stop and think what damage we are doing to one another.
When we walk down the aisle and take those marital vows, do we really know what we are getting ourselves into? We vow to love and respect one another, to cling to each other in times of joy and sadness, in sickness and in health, to leave and forsake all others including our relatives and live with one another till death do us part. Well things always look up for the first few months or so, but then we start to forget the passion and the love that we once declared for one another. Finally we wake up to the reality of living with our spouses under the same roof. We are suddenly exposed to the weakness of the other person.
Hundreds of literature has been written on how to have a happy marriage, but we do not pay attention at all. If only we could be a little more honest with our spouses about our feelings instead of shutting down and consult with each other when we need to do things for our relatives then we would not have a choice but enjoy our married lives.
Lets all borrow some time from our busy schedules, write things about our spouses that we feel are good and on the other hand write what we think is wrong. If the good out weigh the bad, then we should by all means work it out, and if the bad outweigh the good then that is it, we have got no chance in that marriage.
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