Every couple needs to deliberately expose their real traits to one another as they spend time together. Issues like one’s personality and family back grounds need to be addressed, the high points and low points in one’s history are very crucial. Being open to each other is a sure way of avoiding confrontation once you are married. Take this time to build trust for each other by being faithful to one other and always speaking the truth at all time. Don’t hide your character to the other party, allow them to know who you really are early so that they may choose if they want to spend their lives with you or not. This will help strengthen your marriage for you’ll understand and know how to handle each other.
Sometimes it is the small issues that seem insignificant that cause break ups in relationships. So learn to share on every matter, let your partner know if you have any financial problems. If you have outstanding debts let your partner be aware of the situation, anyway it’s said two are better than one hence you can find a ways of solving such matters.
Also the scars and failures like former relationships and spiritual matters must be talked about during courtship. Failure to deliberate on these issues early can lead to misunderstanding in marriage. Let’s seek to discover and know each other at the courtship stage for this is one of the reasons that we see many failed marriages especially during the first five years. We can change this tide by seeking to perfect the art of courtship.
Marriage is a place of joy and comfort but what will determine the kind of marriage you’ll have is how you treat those initial days. You are the ones to establish if you’ll enjoy your marriage or not. Love in marriage does not just come about but the couple must work at it constantly from the word go and keep at it. So the next time you see a couple laughing along the street don’t think it just happened but a lot was been sacrificed.
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